Absolutely Wonderful Person - Someone from whom, we all can learn !

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc4HGQHgeFE&feature=player_embedded

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Rajesh

Happy 45th Birthday Singapore !

Happy 45th Birthday Singapore !

NDP 2010 Theme Song - "Song for Singapore" by Foo May Ying Corrinne

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOBMRCjigsI&feature=player_embedded#!

Singapore Beaches
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My Photos in Singapore
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Singapore Streets
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What to do in Singapore, to avoid Boredom..

Read this thread and find out.. lots of good places suggested here..

 

http://www.lonelyplanet.com/thorntree/thread.jspa?threadID=460240

 

Regards,

Rajesh

 

 

Eye Care - Natural Remedies, refer this link

 

http://www.natural-homeremedies.com/homeremedies_eyecare.htm

 

 

Regards,

Rajesh

 

 

Fish Philosophy

The Fish Philosophy  i nvolves four simple principles:

Be There -   When we interact with others, we need to really focus on that moment, with that person. We take responsibility for "being who we are while we're doing what we're doing."

Choose Your Attitude -   We can't control what happens to us, but we do have a choice about how we respond. By accepting responsibility for the attitude we choose, we also empower ourselves to change it.

Make Their Day -   Too often we ask, "What have you done for me lately?" instead of "How can I make your day?" If we turn the focus around and do little things to make others feel good, we can have a powerful, positive impact on the people in our lives.

Play -   This does not mean goof off, but it does mean bring a light-hearted spirit to life. Think about how much little kids learn by exploring, experimenting, playing. Why shouldn't we all approach life with the same curiosity and interest? Besides, it is more fun!

Regards,

Rajesh

 

 

Six Repair Tools for Your Marriage => An Interesting Article worth the read

Rudy and Marjorie were on the verge of divorce. Married 12 years, they had constant verbal battles ending in what therapists call call emotional disengagement-- meaning that they simply ignored each other for days on end.

Emotionally, they were simmering inside and also lonely for each other, but were unable to reach out and communicate these feelings. They were in a "cold war" with both waiting for the other to make the first move to melt the icy atmosphere.

This couple suffers a common marital malady--lack of skills to repair emotional damage done to each other. According to marital research, almost all couples fight; what often separates the "masters" of marriage from the "disasters" of marriage is the ability to repair the subsequent damage.

Acquiring good repair skills gives the couple a way to recover from the mistakes they may have made. These repair skills provide a "fix" for the damage caused in attempting to communicate to each other other in a way that caused emotional hurt to one or both of them.

It is common for partners to make relationship mistakes - after all, anyone can have a bad day, be under too much stress or just use poor judgment in dealing with a situation. Rather than emotinally disengaging from each other or staying angry, try to "fix it" if you are the offender.

And if you are the receiver of the damage, your challenge is to find a way to accept your partner's repair attempt-- that is, to see your partner's repair attempt as an effort to make things better.

REPAIR TOOL Tool #1--apologize

A simple sincere and heartfelt apology can sometimes do wonders for a relationship, especially if your partner sees you as a person who never admits they are wrong or at fault.

Say things like: I'm sorry; I apologize;What I did was really stupid; I don'tknow what got into me.

REPAIR Tool #2--confide feelings.

Be honest and share the feelings that are underneath the anger such as fear, embarrassment, or insecurity. Your partner may respond to you quite differently if they see those other emotions, instead of just the anger.Confiding what is in your heart and in your mind can make a huge difference in promoting understanding, closeness, and intimacy.

Say things like:I was really afraid for our daughter when I got so angry;I didn't want to hurt you; I just lost my cool.

REPAIR TOOL #3--acknowledge partner's point of view.

This doesn't mean you have to agree with it; just acknowledging it can decrease tension and conflict because it shows your partner you are at least listening to them. It also demonstrates empathy--the ability to see things from their vantage point instead of only yours.

Say things like: I can see what you mean; I never looked at it that way.

REPAIR TOOL #4--accept some ofthe responsibility for the conflict.

Very few conflicts are 100% the fault of either partner. Instead, most conflicts are like a dance with both of you making moves to contribute to the problem. Inability to accept any responsibility is a sign of defensiveness rather than the openness required for good communication.

Say things like:I shouldn't' have done what I did; I guess we both blew it; I can understand why you reacted to me that way.

REPAIR TOOL #5--find common ground.

Focus on the issue at hand and what you have in common rather than your differences. For instance, you might both agree that raising healthy children is a common goal even though you differ in parenting styles.

Say things like: We seem to both have the same goal here; we don't agree on methods but we both want the same outcome.

REPAIR TOOL #6--commit to improve behavior.
"I'm sorry" doesn't cut it if you continually repeat the offensive behavior. Backup words with action. Show concrete evidence that you will try to change.

Say things like:I promise to get up a half hour earlier from nowon; I'll call if I'm going to be late; I'll only have two drinks at the party and then stop.

Dr Tony Fiore is a licensed psychologist, marital therapist and certified anger management trainer. He is a Fellow of the American Stress Institute and a Diplomate of National Anger Management Association. He has received advanced training in marital therapy at the Gottman Institute in Seattle,Washington. In addition to his active clinical practice, Dr Tony regularly conducts anger management classes in Southern California, consults and provides trainings to companies for anger and stress management, and trains anger management facilitators. He also publishes a monthly newsletter "Taming The Anger Bee." With Ari Novick, M. A. he has recently published a new workbook/manual: "Anger Management For The Twenty-First Century - The Eight Tools of Anger Control." Visit his website at http://www.angercoach.com and sign-up for his free newsletter. Article Source(s): http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Tony_Fiore

http://ezinearticles.com/?Six-Repair-Tools-for-Your-Marriage&id=183346

 

Regards,

Rajesh

 

 

To explore Singapore :

http://www.myonlinetour.com/poi/index.htm

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Rajesh

Plants and Feng Shui

LUCK

The role of plants flowers and fruits in Feng Shui is very strong. A well-placed plant can change your family fortunes and harmonise your life. Read on.

The power of plants and flowers in your home 

1. Plants are auspicious from the point of feng shui. It is always good to grow plants in the house, especially wooded plants. 
2. Plants in the office also bring about increased luck in your career. Place plants in the east, south or south-east corners of your office for maximum luck. 
3. If you are a married couple and want children, avoid putting flowers in the bedroom. Instead, place a basket of fruits in your bedroom. Fruits, especially pomegranates, are a symbol of fertility. 
4. Don't place thorny plants inside your home. Thorny plants do form a protective shield, and could be placed outside the home. Don't place them too near the front door. They could be placed a little further away from the door, or in the balcony. 
5. Don't place bonsai plants inside or outside the home. They represent stunted growth. 
6. Trim your plants regularly. Overgrown plants promote bad energy. Similarly, trim trees in your garden regularly. Don't let them overwhelm your house. 
7. Fresh flowers bring luck and fortune in your home. Place fresh flowers in your living room on a regular basis. However, once they die, throw them out. Don't leave dying flowers in your home. 
8. Avoid placing dried flowers in your house. They are believed to bring misfortune. Artificial flowers are a far preferable option and are believed to bring luck. 
9. Do not place any flowers, plants or any other auspicious feng shui symbol in the bathroom. The good luck will backfire and turn into bad luck. 
10. Ever noticed lemons (nimbus) hanging on the entrances of shops? They are believed to ward off the evil eye, according to Hindu superstitious beliefs. Similarly, oranges and lemons are believed to be powerful symbols of fortune, and bring prosperity to the home. They should be placed at the entrance. 

General tips for enhancing prosperity

Before we continue, it is essential to get one thing clear. There is no substitute for hard work. "Genius is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration." Few people have come across wealth and prosperity without putting in hard work. However, often even the most hardworking people may feel that no matter how much they struggle, they seem to be going nowhere, because of sheer bad luck. These are just a few tips to encourage lady luck to smile in your direction. 

• The three-legged frog is considered to be a strong symbol of prosperity. Keep it anywhere in your living room. 
• In your office, sit with your back to the wall or a closed cabinet Avoid sitting with your back to the window or an open bookshelf or you may become the victim of malice and betrayal. 
• Place a painting or image of a mountain range on the wall behind you. 
• Never sit with your back to the door.
• Flowing water is always considered auspicious. If you have a fountain in your reception area, ensure that the water is flowing inwards, and not in the outward direction - or money will flow out instead of flowing in. 
• If you live close to a swift river, prosperity just gets swept along with the current. It is best to live close to a meandering stream.

Source : http://www.indiaparenting.com/alternative-healing/8_922/plants-and-feng-shui.html


Regards,
Rajesh

Try this program : "Stop Dieting, Start Eating and Start Living"

Hey Folks,
  Try this program : "The Diet Solution - Stop Dieting, Start Eating and Start Living". You will benefit from the video regarding right foods to eat.

http://www.thedietsolutionprogram.com/burnfatra.aspx

 

Regards,
Rajesh KVP

Mobile Phones - Buy Indian, Be Indian

Micromax?New kids in the block. Started operations in 1991, this Indian company is all set to stand as tall as the global giants in the Indian mobile phone market. Their innovative product is already making news, and hence their futuristic vision and high R&D needs no further introduction. Micromax, by the way is India’s leading player in wireless telecommunication.

A Gurgaon based company has launched Micromax x1i mobile phone that has a stand-by time of 30 days or an enormous 17 hours of talk time! The closest competition is LG’s KP199 “Dynamite” mobile phone that prides itself with a talk time of 10 hours.

Source : http://www.articlealley.com/article_752555_45.html

India at its Best - 2nd ODI vs SA [Sachin - The Master Blaster Proved it again]

Hi Folks,

 I hope most of you, got to hear about the ODI played against SA yesterday. Sachin created history by scoring a double century with fabulous knocks and batted like a man possessed. The SA were reduced to a mere witnessing side of his batting skills. 25 fours and 3 sixes  = 118 runs coming of just 4's & 6's.
He has batted with 4 tons in his last 4 tests and 3 of his 4 highest ODI scores in last 12 months shows how fit/skillful a player he is at the age of 36.

 Dhoni's wonderful knock with 4's and 6's to amass 68 runs and Karthik's knock of 79 was not even noticed.

Can you imagine a score - 400 for 3 against SA in ODI, with Sachin/Dhoni not out at their best. Can't ask for more.

Indians won the 2nd match with 153 runs yesterday to seal the ODI series win by 2-0

 a match worth watching, try catching the Highlights if you can.

-Rajesh KVP

6 Personality traits to admire and acquire

6 Personality traits to admire and acquire

 

I’ve written numerous articles and posts on difficult people, personalities and relationships: Everything from Manipulative Marys to Bullies in the workplace to people who break boundaries to toxic personalities.  Let’s face it:  In life, we come across all kinds!  As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy.  Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may do a lot of good.  The more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.

 

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks…legitimately.  Maybe they have a fantastic outlook on life, even during difficult times.  Maybe they are really humble, although they are extremely gifted.  Maybe they make you feel special.  All of these are good.

 

Below, I've listed some of the traits I admire most in people.  Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find.

 

Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time or the interest in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common.  People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give.  Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated and special.  While those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.

 

Tolerance: Those people who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals.  All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies.  After all, these differences make the world go round.  Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness and in the health of our relationships.

 

Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial.  Feeling comfortable in one’s skin and being true to one’s self is one of the most beautiful traits one can possess.  To have a REAL relationship with someone requires honesty…it requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular…it means having the strength to tell it like it is and to not be afraid to face the consequences for doing so…it means loving people for who they really are…deep down…and not for what they appear to be.

 

Sensitivity: So often we are focused on what is important to ourselves that we can forget about those around us.  Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued and respected.  Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.

 

Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find.  In a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck (Bernie Madoff…can you hear me?), expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers) and do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods), integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.

 

Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented or drop-dead gorgeous, there is something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time.  Humility in those that possess extraordinary traits make others feel special too.

Oh boy the list could go on!  What characteristics do you admire in others?  Are there any that you want to cultivate?

 

Source : http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/6-personality-traits-to-admire-and-acquire-576756/

 

Originally published on Sheer Balance

 

How to be a Good Spouse

How to be a good husband or good wife. I read the links below and liked them.

Source:
http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-be-a-good-Husband-to-your-Wife-10-Qualities

http://hubpages.com/hub/How-to-be-a-good-wife-to-your-husband-qualities

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Rajesh

Good Numerology WebSite

http://www.lucky-name-numerology.com

NUMEROLOGY TIPS FOR HOUSE HUNTING

Are you planning a move soon? Relocating? House hunting? Are you undecided about which house to choose? Let numerology be your guide. Take the full house number, no matter how many digits, and add all of the numbers together and then reduce to a one digit number.

For instance, if the house number is 33074, then you would add up and reduce that to a 17, then add and reduce again to a one digit number which in this case would be an 8.

Below is a guide of the numerological energies of the one digit numbers.

The 1 House:

This is a house where you would feel motivated. You would function as an independent person here. This is a great house for someone who lives alone. In this house, you feel comfortable in taking the lead on all things and will always have the energy to initiate all kinds of beginnings here. You definitely would be no "shrinking violet" in this abode! This house shines and the owner could collect a lot of interesting types of lamps. Just be careful that while you live here, you don’t become too aggressive or overbearing or you could lose your friends.

The 2 House:

This house has a cozy, loving vibration to it. In this house, the occupants would seek peace and a lot of togetherness. A 2 house vibrates to the energies of the moon, so psychic work could also be done under this roof. This is a house that simply nurtures all kinds of relationships, so its "tea for two" within these walls. This house would also make an ideal place for one to hold a garden party or wedding in the back yard of this house. Don’t be surprised if the occupants have a gazebo installed. The negative side to living in a 2 house; not to get too dependent on your partner - always strive to maintain a balance.

The 3 House:

This is a home that vibrates to communication and self-expression. The residents here would love to entertain frequently and would be very hospitable to their guests. A lot of creativity is abounding in these walls. This house corresponds to the planet of Jupiter, so it could also be a large house or a maybe a smaller home but one that would be slated for future expansions. On the negative side, this house could be conducive to excesses and perhaps shun the responsibilities of everyday living.

The 4 House:

This house represents security. This is a house with a strong foundation and is extremely grounded. It’s all about the earth - so make sure you surround this abode with a garden and throw in some herbs for good measure! This is also a house to choose if you want to concentrate on accomplishing a lot of work. You’ll succeed in this house. One drawback, it could be too serious and lackluster in this house - so try to incorporate some fun into it. Take time to smell those roses that are growing in that garden.

The 5 House:

This is the house of change and movement. It’s vibrant and alive! Residents here will, undoubtedly, travel a lot, or at least make many weekend getaways. The family that lives here will always revel with their five senses! This home will be filled with computers, social events and with a well stocked library. Add to that some blaring music. The noise level could be loud in this house. If its peace and serenity that you crave, this is not your house.

The 6 House:

This house is a beauty. The number 6 is associated with the planet of Venus and this house probably will always be immaculate and kept up. A 6 house is usually freshly painted and decorated with style and class. This is a house that has a family/relationship vibration to it, and it would be very conducive to raising children here. A lot of nurturing goes on in these walls and its usually filled with compassion up to the ceiling. On the down side, you may have trouble getting rid of unwanted visitors who try to outwear their welcome. The occupants of this house would also make a superb counselors or advisors as they have a natural understanding of people.

The 7 House:

A lot of contemplating goes on in this house. Unlike the 5 house, the adventure is within in the 7 house. It’s a great home to build a library and its occupants would make great armchair travelers. Sometimes this home can make one feel like a loner. If you’re married, make sure you openly express your feelings to your partner. This could be the home of the mystic . A negative might be the temptation to escape through drugs, alcohol or food. Some say a 7 house could even be haunted or attract ghosts!

The 8 House:

If you like power, money and success, this one is the pick of the litter! This is a powerful house and its occupants would make great politicians, doctors, attorneys or any high executive positions. This house will always be organized and managed smoothly. Everything will be so well-maintained at all times. Any occupants in an 8, would, undoubtedly, prosper -- just make sure you take time to stop and smell the roses like those 4 residents!

The 9 House:

This is a house of the humanitarian. This can be a selfless house where the occupants are usually off on a mission somewhere or busy functioning at charity fund raisers. This number of 9 has a connection to the past, so don’t be surprised if you get a lot of visitors or phone calls from people whom you haven’t heard from in a while. The 9 house would make a perfect house to practice feng shui. Purge all of the clutter to make room for the new energies/possessions to come in. Recycling is the theme in this house. The only drawback would be to make sure you don’t dwell in the past. Look ahead to the future and make sure you have mastered forgiveness.

Looking for the ideal house can be a monumental task, fraught with questions, concerns, worries, sometimes even sleepless nights. But you can make the job a little easier by simply remembering to count from 1 to 9. Use numbers as a guide to help you make one of the most important decisions of your life. Who knows? Maybe your dream house is just around the corner, waiting for you to count the ways for you to feel happy and homey within its walls. Numerology can make those dreams come true and set you on a true course for home.

Source: http://home1.gte.net/darrowmp/NUMEROLOGYTIPSFORHOUSEHUNTING.htm

How to Find Indian Railways PNR Status.

http://www.indianrail.gov.in/pnr_stat.html

or

1. You can check your PNR status on Indian Railways Official Website ( click here) . All you need to do is to fill in your 10 digit PNR number into the text field and press enter.

2. To check your PNR status , you can send SMS to following numbers as directed .

• PNR  < your PNR number> to 54959. E.g. PNR 2247461632 or
• IRPNR [PNR number] to 57886
• PNR <your PNR number> to 5676747 e.g. PNR 1234567891

3 You can also check your Indian Railways PNR Status by using your Landlines Phones . For this you need to call "139″ from your BSNL landlines, MTNL landlines, Dolphin, Garuda, Idea, Spice Telecom and Vodaphone telecom operator enabled phones.

This service may not work for Airtel Landline numbers.

 

Regards,
Rajesh KVP

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Six Ways to Make People Like You

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a man's Name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in the terms of the other man's interest.
6. Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.

Twelve Ways to Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1. Avoid arguments.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never tell someone they are wrong.
3. If you're wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions the other person will answer yes to.
6. Let the other person do the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his/hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Sympathize with the other person.
10. Appeal to noble motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to other people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes first.
4. Ask questions instead of directly giving orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give them a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Encourage them by making their faults seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.

The last two sections were included in the original 1936 edition but omitted from the revised 1981 edition.

Seven Rules For Making your Home Life Happier

1. Don't nag.
2. Don't try to make your partner over.
3. Don't criticize.
4. Give honest appreciation.
5. Pay little attentions.
6. Be courteous.
7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.

My Trip to Bhadrachalam & Vijayawada - Oct 1st to 5th

Hi Folks,

My trip to Bhadrachalam & Vijayawada(Oct 1st to 5th,2009) was a lovely one.
By God's grace i could see the temple, the place where Rama & Sita stayed
during the last 3 years of Vanavasa, Durga temple, Bhadrachalam temple etc.

I also witnessed the krishna river in full spate which happened once in 100
yrs with 10L cusecs of water flooding from Srisilam vs Prakasham barage(at
Vijayawada). Forecasted 1 million people who have lost their homes and all
they earned till then, was shocking. About 30 odd villages indundated and
more villages in danger zone was a rather tearful episode of what has
happened. Once again, Nature proves that humans aren't full prepared to
take on the fury it unleashes.

 Hope the bad days of weather subside soon.

Regards,
Rajesh KVP

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Quotations by Gandhiji

Quotations by Gandhiji
( Book - Mohan Mala - the Gandhian rosary )

He is the greatest Democrat the world knows, for He leaves us unfettered to
make our own choice between evil and good. He is the greatest tyrant ever
known, for He often dashes the cup from our lips and under the cover of
free will leaves us a margin so wholly inadequate as to provide only mirth
(laughter) for Himself at our expense.

To me God is truth and love; God is ethics and morality; God is
fearlessness. God is the source of light and life and yet he is above and
beyond all these. God is conscience. He is even the atheism of the
atheist. For in his boundless love he permits the atheist to live.

If God was a capricious ( unpredictable & impulsive ) person instead of
being the changeless, unchangeable living law, He would in sheer
indignation wipeout those who in the name of religion deny Him and His law.

God keeps an accurate record of all things good and bad. There is no
better accountant than Him

The divine guidance often comes when the horizon is the blackest.

God is the hardest taskmaster I have known on this earth, and He tries you
through and through. And when you find your faith is failing or your body
failing you and you are sinking, He comes to your assistance somehow or
other and proves to you that you must not lose your faith and that He is
always at your beck and call, but on his terms, not on your terms.
So I have found. I cannot really recall a single instance when at the
eleventh hour, He has forsaken me.

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Rajesh KVP

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